FASHION AIN’T FRIENDLY

by Tuesday, October 10, 2017

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about fashion, especially since fashion month has recently ended and we’ve been bombarded with fashion fashION FASHION for the last few weeks or so all over our instagram feeds. Okay I admit I did take part in the ‘shove it down your throats’ fashion feed content during LFW but at least only for a day or two, or three.. ? My apologies once again. Only because I really do enjoy it though, I love fashion, style, clothing and everything that comes with it. Everything that is except for the fact that it’s just NOT child friendly. Ever since becoming a mum I cant help but feel like our kids just aren’t taken into consideration in the fashion industry, unless it’s a kids brand of course. Take fashion week for example, it’s a slightly mad week, pretty chaotic to say the least and pretty impossible to drag your two year old along with you. I’m talking from experience okay, some of us mums in the fashion world really have no option other than to bring the toddler along with. I learned my lesson fast when Hana decided to throw herself onto the floor amidst a bunch of ‘street style’ posers and have a full on heartbreaking tantrum. Clearly she’d had enough of the pram, the people and the ponce. Who can blame her really? I half wish there was like a kids play area at all the shows and presentations, because technically they don’t last long these shows and if both parent and child were entertained we could be out of there a whole lot quicker, job done! Having said that though I did come across a few FROW’ers this year with babies/toddlers. All seemed to be incredibly well behaved and INCREDIBLY stylish throughout.. they can’t have been real, basically.

Anyway due to the lack of parent consideration at FASHION WEEK I ended up not going to even half of what I was scheduled to, which is a shame really because modest fashion was really quite dominant this year, MAKING IT SO RELEVANT FOR ME TO ATTEND SHIT, RIGHT?????!!!!

By the end of the two days that I managed, I was pretty exhausted and rattled with mum guilt and it just got me thinking. No wonder it’s such a big deal when you find a ‘stylish mum’. How many of you ‘stylish mums’ have had someone gasp when you’ve told them you’re a mum, because ‘you don’t look like one.’ Fashion just ain’t mum friendly. And how will it ever be when we’re yet to find a ‘maternity and breastfeeding’ brand that is anywhere near up to scratch of just the regular high street even?? I know some of you will leave me links to brands that are cool, but lets be real here, theres no comparison and no one would choose to wear that shit if they weren’t pregnant or mums, so what does that tell ya? Basically I’ve had enough of trying to juggle being a mum and being into fashion because for whatever reason those two industries just ain’t mixing well right now. Perhaps I should take my frustration and vent it into designing a line of JUST FABULOUS CLOTHING, that ANY woman can wear, mum or not?!

HMMPH!

Anyway here’s me looking all stylish and pushing the pram on the way home from the most exhausting FASHION DAY!

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  • Liz
    October 10, 2017

    Yeah gurl maternity clothes are shit I ended up just sizing up normal clothes because why are they all soooo horrible ?! I wore an oversized addidas hoodie the last two months of my pregnancy because of that. I would love more clothes from you heheh your style the bump looks were so amazing. Love you xoxox

  • YoGirlKay
    October 10, 2017

    Yes yes yes. I literally spent 3 weeks trying to find a “cool” nursing friendly hoodie that’s nicer for travel. Everything I find is trash and ridiculously priced! I’m tired of double layering so I can breasfeed, and desperately rummaging through target racks looking for deep enough v necks, and cross tie tops. I think you should go for it! I’ve contemplated DYIing nurse friendly tops but let’s keep it real, I don’t have time for that shit! Love this Dina! Super relatable. I hope the industry starts being more accommodating to moms because you definitely are an asset!

  • Aisha Moftah
    October 10, 2017

    Salams & hands up to you sister
    I actually 100% agree with you Dina , even though Alhamdallah my 3 kids are much older now, but I’m still a young mum of 33 and like you said not that much choice out there for young mums , you should definitely come up with a something for all women so no women should feel left out 🙂
    P.S. I’m half Libyan half English,I support you ✌🏼

  • Anon
    October 10, 2017

    Completely understand your frustration but it’s no different to any other job where you aren’t able to just take your kid with you i.e. doctor, dentist, pharmacist, office job, retail, etc etc….

    • Back to reality
      October 12, 2017

      Exactly! I think juggling kids, full time job while trying to give yourself some time too is quasi impossible.. Someone needs to go all put on exposing the super-working-mum myth. When I tried to do it, I lasted for a few years and I was either neglecting my son or myself – the job was the one thing that needed to keep its standard.. Well mess up!

  • michaela
    October 11, 2017

    When I got an email notifying me there was a new post I almost fell off the bed!

    Although, I am not a mum. I cant help but understand your struggle as you have mentioned it a few times on YT. I never even thought of Fashion week making me baby friendly and having a daycare on the premises. I think that is the best idea ever. We should make this happened, start a petition or something 😛

    Michaela | http://www.graceandcoy.com

  • Ayahsmum
    October 11, 2017

    Unfortunately and very sadly , NO industry out there is mother and child friendly in this country . It’s so sad because we are held back when we shouldn’t be .

  • Priti
    October 12, 2017

    You’re definately onto something there Dina – There’s quite a few industries which is challenging to be in as a woman with child. We don’t have kids yet but it’s definately something which I’ve been thinking about in recent months & I guess we have to pave our own paths as much as we can to have everything we want. Not only that but with a platform like yours you can truly make a chance and introduce a line if you really wanted to as it would be a hit no doubt. Companies offer boring crap for maternity from what I’ve seen in the past but again it’s not something I’ve researched properly! That ‘mum’ tag doesn’t mean you can’t be stylish and sexy still. Eugh how much shit do we have to deal with ✋🏾

  • Carina
    October 12, 2017

    I totally understand you! Even hough, I am not a mum. I still think that making Fashion Weeks more kids friendly is a really good idea. Thanks for sharing this!

    https://carinazz.blogspot.com.ee/

  • Naila
    October 12, 2017

    I totally agree! And am so glad someone who is a mom from the fashion industry speaking the reality of being a mom of kids and how hard fashion can be in such situations. I always thought you guys have got it down without any trouble. Thank you for your honesty! I’m a mom of two girls and though I never attended fashion week I do love fashion. Just with kids sometimes it’s just easier to keep things simple. Thanks for your insight Dina!

  • Emel
    October 12, 2017

    Create a collection for mums !!

  • Tanja
    October 12, 2017

    I love it! Love how real you are! Totally feel you regarding the Mum stuff, the fashion stuff I’m not so savvy with but can completely understand how hard it would’ve been! Keep on keeping on girl, you’re definitely rocking both, especially motherhood mA 🙏🏽 Xxx

  • Alexandria Zettili
    October 12, 2017

    Although you love fashion and style, your childs needs came first and that is wonderful, at as far as fashion not being kid friendly it is not, post pregnancy clothes are horrible here in the States and eveywhere else in sure. Thank God for your how to make a kaftan youtube videos :), may Allah bless you and your family.

  • Mimi
    October 12, 2017

    Hmm As previous person said we all have that struggle but we enrol the child in a nursery, or get a babysitter, there are several reputable agencies that do checks now so your not tied to your, I feel like your fustrated at your lack of organisation, why didnt you arrange for your mum, friend, gran or someone to babysit during day if it was such an important week to you.

  • Omar
    October 13, 2017

    Seriously…?there’s got to be more important things to write about than being able to drag your toddler to a fashion show.

  • Nishrat Islam
    October 13, 2017

    I was so happy to know that you have uploaded another post!

    I love these oversized jumpers you wear and its so hard for me to find any where I live I have to order it without knowing how it would fit me. I totally understand about the frustration even though I am not a mother it can be hard taking control of two things at once. However Dina you have got through it and your amazing at it!

    Nishrat | http://www.justcallmenish.co.uk

  • Kim
    October 13, 2017

    Hi Dina Im so glad I’m not the only one thinking this. I worked as Manager for a high-end brand when I was younger and realise how quickly things changed when I became a mother. I loved and study fashion, however my job and my personal didn’t go well together. The fashion industry doesn’t understand that family comes first. Two year ago I’ve change my career and I’m so much more happier and that no one is judging me now… over silly little things.
    Dina do what you think is right…. love your YouTube channel and this blog is amazing… keep up the amazing work…. 🤗sending you hugs xxx

  • Lady Zorro
    October 14, 2017

    Salam Dina!

    Hope you re fine and your family toi!

    first, excuse my English which is not really good …

    I follow you for a long time you really are a great source of inspiration for me!
    I really enjoy you with this article and I love your way to write!
    I totally agree with you as much about the fact that children are not considered in the field of fashion but worse, that mothers are not considered … it seems that fashion is only resent to young women and without children because it is true that when one gets pregnant, she can not find suitable clothes…

    About the world of fashion and children, contrary to you, I started my blog by being already mom, so I already knew that I could not do as much as being a Young fashionista without baby, and it is besides to preserve this family life that I can not go to events such as the fashion week … it is really complicated for me and besides if you have tips to give me, I am totally open!

    I would really like that the field of fashion can consider us in a more ideal way … they do not help us … already it is complicated for us because we are in the field of modest fashion then if in addition they cut the road because we have the desire to being mother …

    Xxx
    Sarah

  • Lady Zorro
    October 14, 2017

    Otherwise, I can not install your application 21 buttons … they say that in france it does not work …

    Can u help me?

    Thank you
    Sarah

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