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How Modest are we though?

 I turned 29 the other week and I’m pregnant with baby no2. I mention being pregnant just incase all of my emotions can be excused due to that. I have to be honest with you the run up to my birthday I was dreading it. Not that I ever really do anything for it or celebrate it as much as some like to. For some reason I was just feeling so low about it, feeling old, feeling like I’ve let myself go, panicking about letting myself go even further once the baby arrives, not achieving what I thought I would have by now and blaaa blaa blaa. Generally just shitting on myself, pretty much.

Birthday morning came around and I found myself waking up at 6am and having to pretend to be asleep for the sake of my toddler surprising me, I really felt like a mum more than any other moment in the last 2.5 years of my toddlers life. It was so cute to see her ‘surprise’ me though and was probably the best part of the day (after getting those Triple S sneakers I’ve been dying to get my hands on since they came out, obvs).

Surprisingly for most of the day I felt pretty good and pretty grateful.. for someone who was lower than the floor the day before. I think I just realised that the blessings around me are so much and that I should just take a moment to appreciate them everyday instead of letting the dooming gloom in my chest take over sometimes. Not allowing the pressures and society’s time limit of measuring ‘success’ absolutely destroy me.

I think a lot of my anxiety and low points recently have been due to a a-lot of changes I’m naturally going through as I approach the end of my 20s. Understandably if you start to change your ideals or start to question things that you’ve only ever known, you’ll panic at the possibility of change, be it good or bad or even if it’s right and essential to make those changes for the progress of your mental state and health as an evolving human being. YA GET MEH?

We’re always talking about modesty in terms of the way we dress but one thing I’ve started thinking about recently is what about the way we live, the way we consume? Take me for example, I’ve always had a bit of a shopping addiction and find myself over buying clothes, accessories, eating out and generally being quite the consumer. I’m not even particularly buying good shit if you know what I mean, not really investing in quality and longevity. More just buying anything thinking that one day I’ll wear it with the excuse of ‘blogging about it’ but then never actually getting round to it, resulting in a bunch of new unworn cheap clothing with the tags still on in my wardrobe. Fast fashion that most of the time is likely to be unethically made but on top of that been supported by me because of my frivolous spending all for the sake of feeling good in the moment.

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Wasted, when there are people who could and would put that to good use. So how modest am I really if I’m constantly wasting money and owning too much? I think I’ve always felt like I’ve had to overcompensate my wearing a headscarf with always buying this many scarves, or that many accessories, or more clothing simply because of my obsession with layering or always trying to dress differently in order to express myself whilst covering my head. With the justification that I ‘needed’ it all. Anyone else?

Over the last eight weeks or so I’ve stopped buying myself clothes with the intention to start wearing what I do have more often. I’ve made space in my wardrobe and given away a lot of pieces rather than keeping things and constantly trying to make myself more space to cater for my materialistic crap. For some reason I haven’t found it hard to let go of clothes this time around, I think I’m enjoying the emptier wardrobe space instead. Theres something satisfying about it. Don’t get me wrong I still have way too much and need to declutter again and probably a few more times before making a real change to my lifestyle, it’s a long process but I think the way I’m starting to think about things is seriously making me second guess the way I’ve been living, which is a positive start. It might be hard to stick to this especially with being a fashion blogger but then maybe I need to focus more on style rather than trying to keep up with sharing trends, I’m not sure how much good that does for any of us really.

Ironically, here are some shots of me on my birthday wearing my first ever designer item. A pair of Balenciaga Triple S sneakers gifted to me by the hubby. I’ve never really been interested in designer pieces enough to invest in them myself but when I saw these I was obsessed.

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Maybe I need to consider investing in quality pieces that will last longer but also hold their value. Rather than owning too much and never touching any if it. Or maybe I don’t. Maybe I need to just find a balance as with most things in life.

To be continued when I figure out what happens next.

55 Comments
  1. Galeemah

    June 20, 2018 6:22 am

    Loved this article. We often don’t think about modesty relating to how we live. Thank you for creating awareness around this topic. It has given me something to think about.

    • Sara

      June 21, 2018 6:24 pm

      Loved this article Dina ❤️

  2. Kat

    June 20, 2018 6:48 am

    I would love to see something like “minimalistic style chalenge”.

    • Melissa

      June 21, 2018 1:55 pm

      Me too. Would love to see a minimalist style challenge video where maybe you have 5-7 pieces and have to make different wearable outfits out of them for a full 7 days. Or videos styling the same item in different ways. Or since you have many clothes already, maybe a shopping your wardrobe video where you pick the items you would buy again and separate the “what was I thinking I don’t/wouldn’t wear this” ones out. And if you were going to do more “ethical fashion” videos or more “investment piece” videos, I think that could be fun and interesting for us viewers already in our 30s.

  3. Anna

    June 20, 2018 2:31 pm

    I Identify so much! Great blog, Dina. I’m 29 too and really started doing some introspection lately about the choices I make. Boy, does getting rid of clutter ease anxiety!

  4. Sam

    June 20, 2018 3:55 pm

    I am the same love buying clothes accessories handbags especially shoes etc the amount i have my hubby always says if I start hitting u with ur own shoes it would take me centuries to get through🤪thats how many i have😱i always say that i buy to many it’s true i do i think its the only way i can stay sane the amount of depressions ive had with each and every child its uncountable. One thing is during my pregnancy whole 9 months I wouldn’t buy anything then wen the childs 4-5 months thats wen i start feeling lonely and need to shop to keep me happy but does it really make you happy to tell you the truth only for a millisecond it does but then you’re back to the start wish i had the answer to all this its just perfecting yourself

  5. Sarah

    June 21, 2018 9:36 am

    «It was so cute to see her ‘surprise’ me though and was probably the best part of the day (after getting those Triple S sneakers I’ve been dying to get my hands on since they came out, obvs »
    That is the problem. Possessing has been more important to bonding. I may have misunderstood but I think its a problem if you prefer a pair of sneakers over your baby congratulating your birthday.

    • Lina

      June 21, 2018 3:47 pm

      I don’t think that’s how she meant it at all. Like she’s said, she was not feeling very good (emotionally) the days before and her baby surprising her And getting that shoe she’s wanted since it came out (only designer shoe she owns) made her day. If you know Dina and watch her blogs, you know she puts her baby and family above anything else, MashAllah. Hope this helps 🙂

    • Sumi

      June 21, 2018 5:52 pm

      You’ve misunderstood

  6. Hanae

    June 21, 2018 10:31 am

    I love this article Allahumma barik! And I absolutely agree in what you’re writing.

  7. Liloo

    June 21, 2018 10:39 am

    SubhanAllah this is exactly how I have been feeling these past months. I stopped buying clothes and accessories 5 months ago. I woke up one day I saw all these brandnew dresses and trousers still with the tag on it and felt so miserable. Since then I decided to see how long i could stay away from shops. It works and I am feeling good and proud. Thought that it would be harder. Love your articles. Sending you love and a happy birthday 😘

  8. Roz

    June 21, 2018 10:47 am

    I hear you. I’m in my 30s and just had baby no 2 and feel exactly the same for the last few years. I’ve been really trying to consume a bit more modestly and for “need” rather than “want”. I watched the fast fashion documentary on netflix and it really really made me rethink- only watch it if you are genuinely ready to change up All of your shopping habits cos it is heart breaking and we’re all guilty. Shopping at Oxfam online shop has been a game changer for me. Everything you could need is there. Good luck with working through your feelings x

  9. Sameera

    June 21, 2018 10:53 am

    Hey Dina! This blog was great.. it really addresses that modesty was never only directed at our attire but also how we present ourselves, our personality and living. Not alot of people understand that and know that a person can be modest in these many ways. Continue these blogs, very inspiring… best of luck!

  10. Safa Durraj

    June 21, 2018 11:07 am

    I feel you Dina. And I hope you’re able to find your balance soon. Also, …. Just let me tell you…. You’re doing great! I’m proud of you! Even if you don’t feel like you are in a happy place, I hope you’ll feel better to know that you make a lot of us happy. Keep doing whatchu doing 😘 Thanks! Much love to Hana.

  11. Rahma

    June 21, 2018 11:07 am

    Yes! This was a great refreshing read…I’ve been recently thinking along similar lines too. I’ve just gotten over being a consumer and constantly buying stuff. I want to live more simplistically and therefore more naturally. I think modesty in Islam is about that too and is an aspect that is often overlooked (as with most concepts in Islam that require us to look deep within ourselves and change our habits). Reflection is the key to change and change is a scarier term for growth.

  12. Jessica

    June 21, 2018 11:11 am

    I loved seeing this post! I’m so glad to hear you’ve started thinking this way. I love your style and enjoy follow blog stylists. Sometimes I feel bad for consuming their content because I know that that level of consumption has negative effects on the blogger, the audience, the environment and the people who make the clothes. I’d love to see how the ideas in this post would benefit your wellbeing.

  13. Asees hera

    June 21, 2018 11:20 am

    Loved it now a days modesty is always related to fashion or dressing. But in reality the word modesty can be related to simplity, gratitude, being grounded.

    I have the same problem as Dina . I’m a shopaholic. I can’t save for the life of me. I always say I want to change. I want to pray more , wake up early, sleep more peacefully, eat healthily, run everyday . Yet I always find a excuse then feel down.

  14. Ihs

    June 21, 2018 11:26 am

    Very good starting! I thunk we don’t need all of these Dina! Keep going, you’re on the good way! By the way happy brithhhhday 🙂!! Peace!!!

  15. Aaishah Hussain

    June 21, 2018 11:32 am

    Love this, recently read about this girl in America who has reduced her wardrobe to the minimal amount but has a fully defined style – she’s known for her consistent style and I thought that was a great way to shop and portray yourself! I get so much dread when I’m surrounded by tonnes of clothes at a store and end up buying loads more than I need ‘in case’ I do need it or wear it! Having not a lot growing up and now having my own money just fuels this need to own ‘stuff’ and it’s hard work breaking out of it! My parents actually used to say ‘when you have your own money, you can buy it’ and that’s what happened!

  16. Salam

    June 21, 2018 11:35 am

    Helo

  17. Laura

    June 21, 2018 11:36 am

    I’m the same, I feel like I’ve been better with not buying clothes recently, purely because of how unethically they are made, and the pollution/waste/abuse that goes into fast fashion (which let’s face it, by the time you’ve bought it, there is a new trend out!) I love going in primark for example but every time you go in there is new things! There’s a reason that some older people look fancy and are “classic” it’s because they wear pieces that really are classic, they never go “out” of fashion and can be worn with whatever is on trend at the time! I just find it hard to get rid of things at the moment as I have so many plain tops in different colours and different sleeve lengths and don’t want to get rid of them because they are layering items. I think that is okay though because that is something I can keep forever, a sequinned bandeau dress is something probably only good for one use and then what! I guess it’s time to invest in – not “designer” designers necessarily; but in ethical creators with staple items that are made by hand with less chemicals and less carbon output, have well treated staff That create items that may be more expensive than we are used to, but are items that you can wear again and again that aren’t mass produced! For example it was the 5 year anniversary of the Rana Plaza disaster, and it wasn’t talked about- you had to search for it if you wanted to read about it! This company, that Zara, H&M, Nike and many other companies all had their products made by, collapsed. The day before workers noticed big cracks in the walls but yet were still forced to come to work the next day, killing over a thousand and injuring thousands more. Yes improvements have been made since, but should it really take a disaster like this to change things? People dying because they couldn’t stop production until the building was made structurally sound!? It’s crazy how obsessed our nation has become with all this cheap clothing, without thinking of the impact it has! Enough of my rambling! Let’s all just make a promise to ourselves to buy less and re-use more!

  18. Habeeba Miriam

    June 21, 2018 11:42 am

    Love this Dina. You are genuinely the original who has just stated the inevitably denied reality by us all. Love you girl.

  19. Awa

    June 21, 2018 11:48 am

    Really nice approach, I am feeling you, Dina. I started to limit myself in buying new stuff by only buying it, if I could find something in the same category for my mum. And owning less is so liberating!

  20. Sarah Abdullah

    June 21, 2018 11:50 am

    Can’t agree more, I am turning 29 next week too and all I can think about the way I have been living. I am constantly questioning myself. UGh, maybe I will find myself as person sooner or later. Also, love your birthday look and I’m seriously digging this hair colour on you its just WOW.

  21. Faizy

    June 21, 2018 12:01 pm

    Love the article and I absolutely agree with you. Modesty is much more than “only” regarding clothes. It is about the way we think, the way we treat others and ourselves. It is much deeper than many of us think.
    Thanks for your thoughts and the reminder.

    Much love from Germany

  22. Rana

    June 21, 2018 12:17 pm

    You know whether it is your vlog or blog or instagram you are a charismatic person. Whatever you do.. Whatever you wear.. People like to see you and hear you. I really enjoyed the blog. As i always say you are mature beyond your age. The same is for Sid. Do not be afraid of 30’s and wait till you reach 40. I found myself in my 40’s. I solved my problems in my 40’s. I ran a marathon in my 40’s ( forst time i ran in my life) and now as i am one year less of my 50’s i started to do cross fit and lifting weight. I do not care anymore about what others might say. Yes i am overweight. Yes i wear the hijab. Yes i am approaching 50 but i am happy with my life.
    I wish when i was your age i was as mature as you. I am sure that you will keep on shinning in every stage of your life.

  23. Shona

    June 21, 2018 12:35 pm

    Enjoyed this piece, a lot of us have this issue of consumerism without acknowledging it/ realising it’s a problem! The thing I personally was a little taken aback with is the ‘overcompensating my wearing a headscarf part..’ is there a need to ‘compensate’ for it..? It’s a choice, where is our general contentment? Just feel like headscarf wearers are made to feel so uncool already and how are we empowering each other/helping ourselves or others who are struggling with it? But I guess fashion wins again..

  24. Ayla

    June 21, 2018 12:45 pm

    I know exactly how you feel, I felt overwhelmed with the amount of clothes and accessories I’ve collected over the years, but didn’t want to just throw or give away, but then a friend said just give away to a mosque and they will pass onto worthy causes, i feel cleansed and my brain feels uncluttered. As human beings we actually don’t need that much materialistic stuff, if we feel loved safe and secure that’s an achievement. God bless.

  25. Soumaya

    June 21, 2018 12:47 pm

    You are a great person Dina, i do understand your feeling being your same age almosg. I am a minimalist actually, but i do have my moments when i just spend money for sake of spending and buy stuff that i don’t need. So, i do understand your feeling. I hope you all the best 🙂

  26. Tamanna

    June 21, 2018 12:47 pm

    I love u Dina and feel a bit like a proud aunt after reading this *sobs* and don’t feel old 29 is super young and 30s will just be a whole new adventure In Sha Allah.

  27. Amani

    June 21, 2018 1:10 pm

    Beautiful article, and I didn’t think about modesty in the sense of consumption. However I’m doing research at the moment and it says from the ages of 18-30, these are the biggest spenders of any generation yet. Our lifestyles don’t help the planet within sustainability.
    Thank you Dina, beautiful reflection, inshallah Allah makes the birth easy for you x

  28. Khadijah

    June 21, 2018 1:15 pm

    Dear Dina,
    This is my first time reading your writing. You are a good writer mashaAllah. Your writing is just as articulate and coherent as you are in your videos – which I’m also fairly new to (2017 band wagon).

    I am a 33 year old single woman who has experinced the panick attack of getting older. Strangely, it did not start when I was turning 29 or even 30, but it dawned on me hard when I turned 31. I was under this gloomy clouds for a little over 2 years and it got even more difficult when my body thought it would be funnier to play games with my hormones. For somebody who always had a good metabolism, enjoyed being active and had a healthy appetite but never gained weight, my weight started to pile on and would not budge despite me scrambling to diet and workout. To add to that, adult acne started too.

    On top of all the worries about my physical self, I was also single. For somebody who always knew that she was going to be a wife and a mother someday, it was painful to realize that neither happened in my 20s and wasn’t yet happening in my early 30s.

    I am in a better place right now both physically and emotionally alhamdulillah. Like you said, there are tons of blessings in our life that we can be and should be grateful for. I am still unmarried and still not a mother but I have not lost hope yet. I have been taking care of my body, mind and soul better in the last couple of years. I am alhamdulillah blessed with parents, siblings, nieces and the ability to keep pursuing my higher education.

    I guess modesty does start when we seize playing the victim and feeling sorry for ouselves of things we have no control of, and to actually take control of the things we can. As well as to always be grateful for all that we already have. The most valuable things we do possess as long as we live are time and love.

    Sincere regards,
    Khadijah

  29. Juzla

    June 21, 2018 1:23 pm

    I’ll be taking up fashion design for my 4 years course at Uni and it’s actually crazy how many breakdowns I’ve had thinking will I fit in with the rest? because I’m broke but I’m so materialistic that it hurts when I can’t get what I want. Wanting designer or branded clothing is like a craving. It’s actually disgusting how you’re worth is judged by how much you earn and how well you splurge on things. Anyways now that I’ve read this article it really made me realise modesty is more that what we wear, it’s in how we think, eat and how we live our daily lives conservatively. I respect your opinion and totally agree. Love you Dina❤

  30. Juzla

    June 21, 2018 1:34 pm

    I’ll be doing my 4 years course for Fashion Design at Uni and it’s crazy of how many breakdowns I’ve had just by thought of will I ever fit in?
    I’m broke and I am so materialistic it’s crazy. Wanting branded or designer clothing feels like a craving. I mean I can’t blame myself for wanting it cuz I live in UAE and majority of the people here live a crazy rich lifestyle.
    Your article Dina, hit me hard that life doesn’t end when you don’t get what you want. Modesty is way more than what we wear. It’s in how we think, eat and live our daily lives. I love this article and you do you girl❤

  31. Ayse

    June 21, 2018 1:39 pm

    I liked this piece. I agree that by buying fast fashion we are making the rich even richer who are ripping off the poor factory workers who work 12 hours 6 or even 7 days a week. In saying that not all brands are any different to fast fashion company’s either. Just because its expensive it doesn’t meant its ethical.
    You should be a voice to ethical modest fashion or as a previous poster suggested a “minimalistic trend challange”

  32. Farah Jacobs

    June 21, 2018 1:48 pm

    So honest and raw. You are brave Dina! And it’s all too true. As Muslim woman trying to cover but still wanting to feel attractive and stylish we gave the risk of becoming too obsessed with our appearance and this leads to binge shopping and all round consumerism. The state of world lends itself to this behavior with social media and fast fashion bombarding your life. Really we should try and struggle against it and truly just look to sorting our heart, attaching it completely to our Lord and with that loving ourselves as we are, cause ultimately that’s what needs attention and is at the end of the day our only relevant and worthwhile pursuit. I reckon that once we got all the self love sorted finding that balance will sort itself out? Good luck to us all! Happy belated birthday! X

  33. Saba

    June 21, 2018 1:53 pm

    Very thought provoking. I’ve never thought about it this way but is a valid point. Why do we fail to apply modesty across all spectrums of our lives and become fixated on the little cloth we flip over our heads 🤷🏽‍♀️

  34. Afia

    June 21, 2018 2:11 pm

    Brilliant read and something that definitely needs addressing! Why don’t you do a video on 10 key staple wardrobe pieces that you can mix and match without having to constantly buy more? X

  35. Safa

    June 21, 2018 3:13 pm

    Im so happy for you that you are realising this , i started following you for quite some time now and i remember how much i like your chill and cool peraonallity and how you are not afraod to show it to the world but after some time i found myself not satisfied with my life for the simple reason that i am not buying the trends or from the famous brands like all the bloggers or how they call themselves lifestyle bloggers .. i figured out if i keep living my life like that it all will be wasted so i strated seeing that the modest fashion you and so manu others claim to be it i actually fake and diguised with the addiction of shopping and consuming like you said …. it is so unhealthy in my opinion unless that’s your purpose of your life.. thays why i am happy for you for reflecting on it and i hope you keep doing that . All the love

  36. Rabia

    June 21, 2018 3:46 pm

    This is so so relatable!

  37. Alwia Al-Hassan

    June 21, 2018 3:48 pm

    I personally have always felt that the more ‘stuff’ I have, the more stressed I become. Consumer culture gives you fast hits of pleasure but I really doubt it makes people truly content. There’s always more that we want and then we feel bad about wasteful. It’s a vicious circle. I once heard a woman say that true happiness is giving not getting. So maybe a solution to your issue is donate whatever excess of stuff you have? Buy what you want but then if you stop using it give it away. Omg you can do a ‘charity’ where fashion bloggers (and other ppl) donate their cool outfits 😍

  38. Nada

    June 21, 2018 3:50 pm

    That was really good to read… it made me think of how modest is my life!!
    You are really an awesome inspiring person, my respect for u keeps growing
    ❤️

  39. Urooba Faheem

    June 21, 2018 7:58 pm

    Loved this and thank you for getting back to blogging! I feel we all have that guilty spot somewhere and mine honestly came through this Ramadan..I’ve had some kind of a spiritual awakening where I feel I need to stop being so materialistic perhaps..fun fact: I just turned 30 too!

  40. Simone

    June 21, 2018 8:18 pm

    It really sounds like you should read “goodbye, things – the new Japanese minimalism by Fumio Sasaki” and some of Marie Kondo”s books on organizing, things that sparks joy and tidying up
    Japanese do really practice the art of modesty and modest living

    I would recommend you to look them up

  41. Saff

    June 21, 2018 9:23 pm

    This is a great topic. I do think that living overseas has something to do with that though. I mean we buy stuff that we know we won’t see again in the shops (especially the Egyptian shops!) so we load up with clothing items that we probably know we won’t ever wear, but assume we will if the shops never bring it back in.

  42. Sadiq

    June 21, 2018 9:27 pm

    Good one
    Give importance to quality but not quantity.

    Quality over quantity. Then you’ll have choice to pick the exact ones.

  43. Saf

    June 22, 2018 1:17 am

    Hey Dina, your words express what a lot of us western Muslim women are feeling deep down. We live in a society where fashion and trends are thrown in our faces, so we cannot help but yearn to be a part of it. But at the same time, we are Muslim. So our souls will never ever be content living in a shallow and materialist manner. Our souls are modest and want modest lives. Our bodies love the spending, love the show, love the trends, but our souls hate it. That’s why, I think, as we get older we start to step back and think, why am i not feeling content? Contentment and true happiness is what we search for. And, believe me, there are thousands of ways to be happy every single day, that involve not spending a dime and not feeling crap about it afterwards! We need to recognise what those little things are, focus on them, blow them up, cherish them, and push the materialistic rubbish to side. X

  44. Aya Ahmed Taha

    June 22, 2018 5:23 am

    This was eye opening and on time.
    Thanks Dina for always inspiring me.
    Habibty inty

  45. Javeria Ahmed

    June 22, 2018 4:23 pm

    Loved it Dina and beautiful initiative, more power to you ❤

  46. Georgia

    June 23, 2018 2:12 am

    I love this article. Although, investing in quality pieces could exclude a lot of your audience who don’t have the money to buy more high-end stuff. I hope you will continue catering to both. Much love. x

  47. Fatima

    July 3, 2018 10:15 pm

    السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ Dina,

    So happy you turned the leaf on this because you are absolutely right on how a product is made is important. It’s doesn’t feel like we’re living Islamically when we are purchasing products made by child or slave labor or even products made in abhorrent working conditions or by people who are not earning living wages. I also think “quality” conversation matters as well because if products are thrown away or even given away, they effect the quality of life for others by making negative impacts on their environments and markets @celinecelines has a lot to say about this and is a great resource. Bangladesh is being swallowed by plastic, and second hand goods are negatively impacting local economies in countries in Africa and South America, etc. BTW I saw this brand: @hatchgal and I so thought of you during your pregnancy and a rant you had about maternity wear. I can’t wait until you start investing in quality pieces, so that the rest of us who already follow you, and the brands you wear, can also make a positive change in line with our belief system. Also have you ever thought about doing the same for your skincare/makeup? You have an amazing resource called Content Beauty in London and I was wondering if you ever felt like going the natural route, if you could ever do a review on it and the products they sell? Thanks a lot for the content you write, can’t wait to read your book!

    Lots of love from the US! وَعَلَيْكُمْ السَّلاَمُ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ
    ‏ ‏ جزاك اللهُ خيرً

  48. FaithFashionFriendship

    July 12, 2018 1:37 pm

    Really glad that you posted this! I can personally relate to this one. Once I started college and making my own money, I was very extravagant with my spending. The bad part is, I wouldn’t wear half the stuff I bought. Sometimes, it wasn’t because I didn’t like the piece after I brought it home, it was because I had so much to choose from and I’d forget I had it.
    Thank you for this reminder! I haven’t shopped in a whole month! I know to some people that seems normal, but it’s a huge improvement for me! As I get older (I’m approaching my 23rd birthday), I want to be able to better support myself financially. I also need to consider this lifestyle of picking up and buying whatever I want, won’t always work when I get married and have kids.

  49. Liz

    July 16, 2018 2:26 am

    Salaam Dina! I’ve tuned into your videos for years! I’m so happy to read this post. If you read about how garment workers are treated it would make you sick. There are increasingly brands out there who treat people with decency. I think it’s crucial for Muslims, even from the selfish perspective. What is it doing to our soul to wear things purchased at the expense of human dignity? We talk about halal sources of income but rarely do we think about how we spend that income – where our food came from our clothes etc. Two bloggers that I love who focus on minimalism and conscious shopping are unfancy and stylebee.ca . Allah reward you for putting yourself out there and guide us to what is ihsan.

  50. Zoya Khan

    July 18, 2018 6:08 am

    Loved this article. I consider you to be my role model, I wanted to own everything you have, do everything you do and blah blah. Doing so sometimes I felt guilty during the process or what I’m aiming to achieve. Now that you have written this article it will help me bring my head to the right place. To question what I actually want in life, to question how simple and modest I want to be rather than fashionable.

  51. Firdaus Vogt

    July 23, 2018 7:53 pm

    Thank you so much for this wonderfully introspective article Dina! I feel I need to let you know that I am in my 40’s, and I thoroughly enjoy watching your vlogs and reading your articles. You are doing wonderful work, and I think it’s beautiful that your husband supports you so much.

    I found this article very insightful. I’m actually now at the other end of this spectrum, and I think it’s wonderful that you are pausing to reflect. Because I didn’t. I used to be “Miss Designer” forever shopping for the latest trends and designer articles. I don’t know that a week passed by without me acquiring a new item for my wardrobe. I couldn’t differentiate between my “needs” and my “wants”. Then I became a single mother of two, and my mother who was my bedrock passed away. I had to grow up very quickly. I was hit with such massive financial challenges, to the point that even buying clothes for my growing kids was a huge challenge, not to mention for myself. My needs very quickly became crystal clear to me, and subsumed my wants.

    Allah is the best of planners, and knows better than we can ever know. This period of “drought” has been the best thing to happen to me. My consumerism, and filling my life with “stuff” and worthless experiences was keeping me from truly living. I wasn’t focused on nurturing relationships, and more importantly on nurturing my relationship with the creator. I am now able to replace all that clutter with meaningful things and experiences. Now when I go shopping my heart is filled with gratitude for the opportunity, and I ride on that gratitude and feeling of being blessed. Because I know how quickly it can be taken away. Alhamdullilah.

    Wishing you and your family all of God’s blessings.

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